Toni Medrano, a 29 year old
alcoholic, committed suicide by dowsing herself with a flammable fluid and
setting herself on fire one month after being dubbed “Vodka Mom” by Nancy
Grace. According to the Daily Mail, the young mother consumed an
entire fifth of vodka, then fell asleep and suffocated her 3 week old son
Adrian. It wasn’t until 10:30 am the
next morning, when she saw that Adrian
was cold and purple, did she realize she had killed her newborn son.
Initially Ms. Medrano faced 2 counts
of manslaughter. One charge was for “Culpable negligence creating
unreasonable risk,” and a second for “Committing or attempting to commit a
violation.” If convicted on both counts she could have faced up to10 years in
prison.
The tragic story of newborn Adrian’s asphyxia was featured on the Nancy Grace’s syndicated talk show. On
the show Nancy
reveals that Ms. Medrano consumed the equivalent of 17 shots of vodka and that
her alcohol level was .11. A doctor on
the show further revealed that little Adrian had probably been dead for hours
due to the purple coloring in his skin, which is a sign that his blood had been
pooling in his body. Which means that
his blood was unable to circulate because of the amount of force on his body.
This in and of itself caused this poor child an immeasurable amount of pain on
top of the pain of suffocation.
Outraged by the sheer neglect of this infant child, Nancy pointed out that
Ms. Medrano had a history of alcohol abuse and had been cited with two Driving While
Intoxicated (DWI) offenses. She then adamantly called for Ms. Medrano to be
charged with Murder One, which is a charge of premeditated murder. Although I don’t agree with Ms. Medrano being
charged with Murder One, I don’t see anything wrong or inappropriate with the
actions of Nancy Grace. As angry as some
people have been because Nancy
called out Ms. Medrano on her actions and responsibilities as a parent, where
was this anger at the horrific loss of an innocent child?
I strongly don’t believe Nancy Grace
said anything that any person with some semblance of rational thought wasn’t thinking.
It's tragic on all accounts, but that woman should have thought about the
possible consequences when she “boozed it up” and fell asleep with her 3 week
old on the couch. Where was the child’s
crib? If she couldn’t afford a crib,
then she could have put him in a drawer, but she didn’t need to have him on the
couch with her when she decided to “get her drink on.” With that being said, she didn't deserve to set
herself on fire and die in the manner she did, but I'm sure being suffocated
and crushed is no walk in the park either. Little Adrian should have been her number one
priority. Period. She may have been distraught after the fact, but that doesn't
bring her son back and killing herself only exacerbates the issues her other
children will have in the future.
There are some that are calling for
Nancy Grace’s resignation. Others are
calling for the boycott of CNN and
even Dancing with the Stars; at which
I find absolutely ridiculous. What if Ms. Medrano had she been drinking and got
into a car and killed someone other than her own child? What if that child had been some else’s 3
week old? I bet those that defend her would probably have a difference of
opinion. Is it because she killed her own child that she should somehow warrant public compassion? Before she took
her first drink shouldn’t she have had the rationalization to put her newborn
in his crib? How about, “common
sense”? I understand that some people may
not have “good sense,” but most people have “common sense.”
Alcoholism is a disease as is
drug addiction, “yadda, yadda, yadda.” Let it affect you, your body, and your
own circumstances. On the other hand, when you kill innocent people based on a
"choice," get ready for the consequences. It would have been entirely
different if the killing were completely accidental or unavoidable. Had Ms. Medrano been sober when the accident
happened we’re be talking about a different scenario with a different set of empathetic
circumstances; but she wasn’t. She was “fu@k#d up!” She was so out of her mind
that she laid on top of her child for hours before she realized she had killed
him. It’s tragic on all accounts, but she gets no sympathy from me.
I can’t understand how people
can get so angry at Nancy Grace, but not so much at the fact that an innocent
child is no longer here and the remaining children are motherless because Ms.
Medrano made the decision to make two selfish choices. It's not Nancy Grace's
fault that the mother had no integrity and would rather dowse herself with fire
than face ridicule, a lifetime of remorse and possible jail time. At least she
had choices. What choice did the little Adrian
have?
If we’re going to get angry at
anything, let’s get angry at mothers who make irrational choices at the
expenses of their children. Let’s get
angry at fathers who emotionally detach themselves from the responsibility of
nurturing their families. Let’s get angry at everyone who continuously chooses
and abuses mind altering substances while their household are left to fend or
defend for themselves. Let’s just get seriously
angry at unavoidable caustic choices that wreck havoc on our communities!
This woman does not get a pass
because she was emotionally weak or a person of color. Nor does she get a pass because of the
horrific way she chose to end her
life. I’m tired of all the cookie cutter excuses of being down trodden and
drenched in poverty. Everyone is going
through issues. The economy is horrible;
people are losing their jobs, seeing the entire savings being wiped out and
their homes being foreclosed. If your
actions are hurting your family and it is within your grasp to make a choice to
choose a new direction, then do it! No
more excuses. Period! You don’t have money for rehab? So what! The rehab facility in your area is filled to
capacity? So what! The rehab facility recommends that you stay
for 3 months? So what! You do what you
need to do to get yourself right for your kids. Period! That’s what a parent is
supposed to do and it the right of every child to expect and be entitled to
that commitment. If you make a choice to
bring a child into the world, then make a choice to be the best example
possible. Period!
What Ms. Medrano did was wrong and
I don’t blame Nancy Grace for getting angry.
Some may say that it was all for ratings. Others may say exploitation. Still, others may say she was just being a
mean, old, belligerent Bi*#h. I don’t
care. I may not necessarily agree with
all her tactics, but for the most part I think she was right on point.
RIP Adrian